The quiet unspoken truth

I love it here. Halifax is a beautiful city, it’s right on the ocean, and in the summer I can be at the beach in about 20 minutes or less. Swimming in the Atlantic, being on the coast, it’s all a wonderful and amazing thing. Also, the people in the Maritimes are generally just as nice and friendly as the stereotypes claim them to be.

You know there’s a “but” coming though, right?

But.

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I miss home sometimes. I miss our families, I miss our friends, I miss the old school and the community I had there, I miss being at home with my kids, I miss the dog we had to leave behind, and I even miss the silly “should be inconsequential” things like Chinatown, the Biodome, and good poutine.

I know that sometimes it takes time to get settled and feel at home and for awhile I thought I had, but lately I have an ache that won’t go away no matter how much I love it here.

I’m homesick and there’s very little I can do about it except breathe and wait for it to pass.

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9 thoughts on “The quiet unspoken truth

  1. I went through the same exact feelings after a move from Atlanta to SoCal. We are moving back to Atlanta next month. I love the beach and the weather, but I miss my friends and family and most of all, great BBQ! I hope your homesickness passes soon.

  2. Tis one of those “the grass is always greener” things. In Montreal you’re going to miss Halifax. In Halifax you’re going to miss Montreal. Dr. (sic) Walker recommends doing all you can do working and playing in Halifax and then enjoy some visits to Montreal. We’re never going to be able to pick and choose those things we love and pool them together in one place. It makes for a really terrific dream though. You’re lucky to know two terrific places.

  3. Not only did you make a huge move, but you have undergone a huge lifestyle change. You were a SAHM for years, and now suddenly you’re back in the workforce. And not only are you back in the workforce, but you are working hours that mean you don’t get to spend as much time with the girls as you would if you were working 8-4 or 9-5.

    Plus, Halifax is very different from Montreal, even with just looking at sheer size, and that is something that can be hard to get used to, just because it doesn’t have as many amenities.

    I experienced some homesickness, mostly over missing family and friends. And I still miss them, but the ache has become less now that Halifax has become home. Because you love it here so much, perhaps – deep down – you expected to have it feel like home right away; but no matter how much you love a place, it still takes time.

  4. Hubby and I were dying to retire and move to his homeland of Puerto Rico. We built a beautiful home and retired there. Within a year we too were home sick, missed our children, grandchildren started coming. We knew we had to go back home and we did. We still miss certains things about PR but love being home again. Sherry hang in there. I think not seeing your girls as much as you are use to is what is really hard for you.

  5. After a terribly abusive relationship of 12 years, I returned to my hometown. But it has taken me months to stop weeping over never walking certain paths again, not having “my family stuff and places,” new grocery stores and the like. Moving is hard. More than people realize. Follow your heart, wherever it takes you.

  6. Does it feel like that you are just visiting and will be going back home soon? That is how I felt when I moved from a large house into a small trailer. I never got over that feeling until I moved out of that small trailer~~ and I was there about 5 years. It does take a while sometimes. Hang in there ~~maybe you can visit back home sometime~~and then you might wonder what you ever saw in that place. HUGGS

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