Chasing Waterfalls

New One

Amanda on 26 Aug 2004 01:25 pm

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4 Responses to “New One”

1. Erica on 27 Aug 2004 at 8:55 pm #

   I know that the situation bugs you, and this is where you come to vent, but it strikes me as inviting drama. If you don’t want to be friends with the guy, don’t email him to say “I don’t know if I want to be friends with you anymore…”, just… don’t be his friend! Don’t email, don’t take it personally if he gets snarky, don’t lose any sleep over it, don’t justify your actions here or anywhere else.

   He’s not being a friend to you, he’s not contributing anything positive to your life, so that’s that - end of story. You’ve taken enough of his drama, so don’t invite any more by responding to it.

2. Amanda on 30 Aug 2004 at 11:58 am #

   Gah. Seriously. Is there a reason I need to be told what to put in my own journal? I love you dearly, Erica, but I think you know how much that bugs me. I don’t keep a paper journal; this is all I have. So if I want to record here why I do or do not want to be friends with someone, I will do just that. It’s not to invite drama. It’s so that if my mood is very different one day and this person sends me a sappy email that makes me feel terrible about myself, I can go back, read what I wrote at the time, and regain that strength.

   In any case, I will write what I want to write here on my weblog and in my journal; for those of you out there who have blogs/journals of your own, you can write what you want in your spaces; and for anyone who doesn’t have such things, well, go get yourself one.

   Yes, this really does irk me.

3. Erica on 30 Aug 2004 at 2:01 pm #

   Uh, I think you took that in a spirit that was definitely not intended. I know it’s up to you what you write - that’s why I said “I know this is where you come to vent.” You’re entitled to write whatever you like.

   I was just saying that if it bugs you to get all his whiny emails and half-assed apologies, dropping the issue (at least in terms of emailing him, or writing about him somewhere that you know he reads) gives HIM less opportunity to be melodramatic.

   I’d never suggest that you censor what you write, I was just trying to suggest a way for you get the result you want — I thought you wanted him to shut up and go away. If, as you said, you wanted something to read over to give yourself more strength, that’s a different story.

   Sorry if I offended. I didn’t mean to raise your hackles.

4. Amanda on 30 Aug 2004 at 2:29 pm #

   :) No harm intended, no harm done.