Not Working
Hi. My name is Amanda, and I am addicted to caffeine.
More specifically, I am addicted to coffee.
A little over a week ago, I wrote about my visit to the naturopathic doctor, and how she put me on a tincture to be taken three times a day, and instituted various dietary changes. She “allowed” me half a cup of coffee per day, which obviously is not going to happen because it’s a big pain in the ass to make HALF a cup of coffee. She told me I could drink all the green tea I want, so I simply gave up coffee and switched to green tea.
All week, I had the occasional minor headache. Today, though, it reached a crescendo and bordered on a migraine. I woke up this morning feeling pretty well-rested, and with the sun rising brightly in the sky as I backed the car out of the driveway, I felt good, positive. It’d been a good, relaxing weekend and I was ready to head back to work for the week.
By 9:30 though, I started to feel awful. Rundown. Exhausted. The headache was quickly forming, and I found myself shutting my eyes briefly while I waited for a document to print or a screen to load, just to give myself a couple of seconds’ relief. I took an Advil, but it didn’t do anything. I drank a second cup of green tea. Nothing.
Then the lunch hour rolled around. I pulled out the vegetarian, high-protein dish that was one of the recipes the doctor gave me. It was brown rice, chickpeas, chopped tomatoes, cilantro and parsley, and then I made a homemade dressing for it consisting of olive oil, dijon mustard and basalmic vinaigrette.
Well, I ate it. It didn’t taste awful, exactly. It just didn’t taste like much of anything at all. I put more of the dressing on in an attempt to give it a bit more flavour. But see, I’m not a huge fan of mustard, so that didn’t go over well. I ate it because I didn’t have anything else.
That’s when I started to get angry.
My lunch sucked. My head felt ready to explode, and I had a very strong suspicion that ONE.SIMPLE.CUP.OF.COFFEE would heal me. Before I went to see the doctor, I used to have two small cookies for dessert at lunch (I take after my Granny - a meal is not complete without dessert!). She wanted me to limit that to three times per week. I decided to have only ONE cookie Monday to Friday (which actually works out to fewer cookies per week). But I bit into my one measly cookie today and found that it was soft and stale. Gross. I threw the other half out, and eyed the chocolate Santa I had picked up last week at the Charity Committee meeting.
And I ate it. I’m supposed to fill out a diet journal for one week and I’d decided it would be this week. Feeling rebellious, I decided NOT to put that piece of chocolate down.
Ahem. I am 28 years old. Why the hell am I sneaking chocolate like a child hiding it from her mother???
I started thinking about how my diet is pretty damn healthy already. And I started thinking about how life is too damn short to be depriving myself of things I enjoy. Not too long ago, a friend of a friend died of cancer after having led a remarkably healthy lifestyle. I think he was only in his 40s. I kept thinking, “I want a coffee. One coffee. It will make me feel loads better. Why am I denying myself?”
So I went and made a coffee. As predicted, I felt a million times better. The headache finally went away. I felt like I finally woke up after the day was nearly over. Earlier, I had wondered how the hell I would be able to get my ass to my Tai Bo class tonight (and make it through it), but it suddenly seemed possible.
Coffee is my crack.
I decided that I will email the doctor and tell her my decision:
* I will TRY to incorporate more meatless meals into my diet, but no promises. I am not going to eat bland shit.
* I will drink ONE cup of coffee per day. A whole cup. If I’m having a particularly bad day, had a rough night sleeping and am trying to operate at work on four hours’ sleep or something, then I may have two cups. Otherwise, I will supplement the remainder of the day with green tea.
* I will limit myself to one cookie per day, but if someone happens to bring in a treat some day, as occasionally happens, and I wish to partake of said treat, then by god, I’m going to partake of it. And enjoy every last bit.
I will then ask her if it is her opinion that this whole thing won’t work if I go by my rules. If so, then I may have to try other avenues. Truth be told, I haven’t REALLY tried counseling for my worrying and anxiety. I’m not sure why I thought I’d try a naturopathic doctor first, when I knew they usually try to change your whole life around. Also, my worrying tends to worsen when Neal is away simply because there’s more for me to worry about (house, car, etc). Neal is going to be home in less than five weeks (HALLELUJAH!!!), so my worrying should lessen significantly very soon. Then he’ll be home for a good long while, which can be my opportunity to go see a counselor/shrink and work on my anxiety and on building up my self-confidence so that I don’t worry so much the next time he’s away.
I am hoping to continue on with the tincture because that does seem to be working, and I’m hoping that despite what I wrote above, it’ll help heal my adrenal glands which are, according to the doctor, fatigued.
SIGH. I am much, MUCH happier with coffee in my life.
(And hey - anyone know of some good high-protein vegetarian meals? If so, PLEASE email me at akosborne(at)gmail(dot)com)
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Laura on 17 Nov 2008 at 9:09 pm #
You know sweetie? You Are Right. Life is too short to deprive yourself of simple, reasonable pleasures. If you’re feeling bad and coffee will make you feel better, then drink it! The amount of damage a cup of coffee will do to you is minimal, in comparison to the amount of unwellness you were feeling, mentally and physically. We don’t try to eat and drink healthily, and exercise, in order to make ourselves feel BAD, after all. As far as meatless dishes are concerned, there’s a couple on World Famous Nosh (the greek pita and greek pasta salad come to mind). Hummus is really good for you, as is any kind of bean. I’m hooked on Fava beans lately, for some reason. LEAN meats are good for you, though, so surely your doc can’t object to lean chicken breast or turkey, or fish!!! In the end I can only offer you the advice I try to follow myself - eat as clean as you can (whole, unprocessed foods, “good” proteins and carbs, stay away from fast food!), exercise as often as you can, and LIVE YOUR LIFE.
Hugs, and I’m here if you ever want to call or chat.
Laura on 17 Nov 2008 at 9:13 pm #
Also, regarding the anxiety, here’s the things that have been helping my GAD lately - a walk in the fresh air during lunch (sunshine!), added vitamin D to my LIST of supplements, sleepy-time tea (I think it’s just chamomile) with honey at dinner, my “Peace Pipe” CD, and just keeping busy in general (which I know YOU have no problem with at all!). Also, well, I’m avoiding talking or e-mailing with people who tend to stress me out, I’ve cut out some unnecessary tasks during my day that were in the end not worth the hassle they were causing me (I highly recommend doing a mental review of the stuff you do daily, to see what you can get rid of!), and I’m taking an hour long nap each weekend day. I hope these help you!
maggie on 18 Nov 2008 at 9:38 am #
“I will not eat bland shit” RIGHT ON!!! good for you
sherry on 18 Nov 2008 at 2:11 pm #
You are so right, and there’s such a big difference between healthy choices and total deprivation.
I have a couple of recipes I can send you later when I’m back at my laptop (I’m on my iPod now, hee). I have some good ones.
daddy on 18 Nov 2008 at 5:15 pm #
Hi Amanda, I don’t have any of the problems you have and I only eat things that I enjoy (not a big fan of beans or tofu) My suggestion to you is to try and stop your worrying if you can and eat what you like. (we’ll talk about this more when you come for christmas, if you want to, okay? )
Amanda on 18 Nov 2008 at 7:09 pm #
Daddy: I appreciate what you’re saying, but if it was as easy as just deciding not to worry, then I wouldn’t be in this predicament. Unfortunately, it’s something I haven’t been able to control.